There is an inherent flaw in our society, one that we must live and battle with no matter who we may be.
We live in a categorical society, one which deems it necessary to assign a label to everything. Black or white, liberal or conservative, gay or straight, and on and on. There is little room for shades of grey, and many get entrenched in one side or the other, preaching the correctness of their side and missing the subtle nuances that are entirely true for both sides of the dividing line.
But what happens as a result of these labels and predefined bins we must all accept as our definition of self within society? Terrible things if our label happens to be one other than the ‘norm’ (the norm that society has chosen and promotes). Let’s just stick with the gay label. If you are gay, you are going against the societal norm and must constantly fight against oppression, misunderstanding, and pressure to question your lifestyle and ability to love. And for what? Am I any less capable of loving? Am I any less of a person? NO! Of course not.
So why do we let society fight against us? Why do we struggle incessantly for acceptance and to be allowed just to be ourselves? Why?
So many promising lives have been cut short due to discrimination, lack of self worth, and HATE. And for what? Because they were different? Is that worth ostracization to the point of compulsion to take one’s own life?
I hope one day we can look back at this civil rights movement and be glad we no longer have to lobby society for our right to be us. I hope one day we can realize the hopes of the It Gets Better Project and we can tell the youth that once upon a time some people thought gays did not deserve full equality.
But until that day, I will continue to call, write, lobby, and advocate. I do it not just for myself, but for all of the young people unfortunate enough to be growing up in an area of the world that homophobia reins. I do it to let them know that it is okay to be gay and it really will get better. There are people out there who love you for who you are and you will find those people. In time, it will get better and the world wants you to be around to see it. We need you around to witness the tides of history shift.
If you ever doubt….if you ever find yourself thinking it would be easier to give up than to fight, reach out to someone and listen when they tell you…It gets better, society will one day shed the labels used to subjugate and hate.